{"id":25043,"date":"2023-05-26T16:42:49","date_gmt":"2023-05-26T16:42:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/demo25.mystagingserver.site\/alignwithgod\/?page_id=25043"},"modified":"2023-05-26T17:26:34","modified_gmt":"2023-05-26T17:26:34","slug":"relational-connectors-rcs-2","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/demo25.mystagingserver.site\/alignwithgod\/relational-connectors-rcs-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Relational Connectors (RC\u2019s)"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"25043\" class=\"elementor elementor-25043\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-b807970 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"b807970\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;,&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-extended\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-845bde7 sc_inner_width_none sc_content_align_inherit sc_layouts_column_icons_position_left sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"845bde7\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-134b425 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"134b425\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Relational Connectors (RC\u2019s)<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-030d3c8 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"030d3c8\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-extended\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5be5d5b sc_inner_width_none sc_content_align_inherit sc_layouts_column_icons_position_left sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"5be5d5b\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f36139 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6f36139\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">RELATIONAL CONNECTORS (RC\u2019s) EXERCISE #1: HANDOUT\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-29ef5ee elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"29ef5ee\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-extended\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-889cb9f sc_inner_width_none sc_content_align_inherit sc_layouts_column_icons_position_left sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"889cb9f\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-933af31 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"933af31\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">WHAT are RC\u2019s-WHY ARE THEY IMPORTANT? RC\u2019S= Relational circuits:\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-32b6dda sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"32b6dda\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Joy comes from relational connection: \u201cSomeone is glad to be with me\u201d<\/li><li>Our brains have circuits that guide our relational connections with God and others<\/li><li>These circuits are formed and enhanced in relationship with God and others<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-77ed8ae sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"77ed8ae\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><strong>RC\u2019s are OFF when any one of the following are true:<\/strong><\/h6><ul><li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">The problem is more important than the person.<\/span><\/li><li>I want to make the person, problem go away<\/li><li>I don\u2019t want to listen to what others feel or say<\/li><li>My mind is locked onto something upsetting<\/li><li>I don\u2019t want to be connected to _________________(someone I usually like)<\/li><li>I just want to get away, fight or freeze. I don\u2019t want to be here!<\/li><li>I more aggressively interrogate, judge and try to fix others (or myself)<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-39f99d5 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"39f99d5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6>RC\u2019s are ON when (everything will go better when RC\u2019s are On):<\/h6><ul><li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">The person is more important than the problem.<\/span><\/li><li>I can be respectful, aware of, and interested in others points of view<\/li><li>I see this moment as a new situation where I can learn something<\/li><li>I am not struggling with feeling isolated and alone<\/li><li>I can join in give and take both verbally and nonverbally<\/li><li>I am eager to talk with God about situations in my life<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9600e5f sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9600e5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>RATE YOUR RC\u2019S AS YOU PERCEIVE THEM NOW<\/strong>: 0&#8212;&#8212;5 with zero being RC\u2019s 100% off and 5 being RC\u2019s 100% on.<\/p><p>MY RC score now is: ____________________________<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-b97025c sc_inner_width_none sc_content_align_inherit sc_layouts_column_icons_position_left sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"b97025c\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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https:\/\/demo25.mystagingserver.site\/alignwithgod\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/susanne_walstro\u0308m-students_in_sweden-3866-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2480px) 100vw, 2480px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b363de9 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b363de9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6>THREE WAYS TO GET YOUR RC\u2019S BACK ON: (when they are low or off)<\/h6><ol><li>BE THANKFUL FOR SOMETHING, GOD OR SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE, AND WRITE IT DOWN,<br \/>EXPRESS IT IN PRAYER, OR EXPRESS IT TO A PERSON.<\/li><li>DO THE RC EXERCISES for the Body (shalom for the body) see below<\/li><li>RECEIVE and\/or OFFER ATTUNEMENT (see below)<\/li><\/ol>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3842d8d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"3842d8d\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-extended\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ae74724 sc_inner_width_none sc_content_align_inherit sc_layouts_column_icons_position_left sc_fly_static\" data-id=\"ae74724\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0400814 sc_fly_static elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0400814\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>1) <strong>Gratitude:<\/strong> Pause for a moment and think about, or ask God to show you, something or someone you are truly thankful for. Write it here, including the details about what you are grateful for: Make sure it is something you feel genuinely thankful for, even if it is a small thing. If you would like to, you can write it as a prayer to God. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________<\/p><p><strong>2) Relationship Circuit\u2019s (RC) Exercises<\/strong>:<\/p><p><em>A. Shalom for my Body: (Hebrew word for peace, synchronized and whole; things being in right relationship with each other, the mind, soul spirit attuned to each other. Subjective feeling is peaceful.)<\/em><\/p><p><strong>These are exercises that you can do physically to increase your brain&#8217;s capacity to attune to itself, others and God.<\/strong> They may feel awkward at first, but you can feel the difference usually either right away or after 1-2 weeks. Remember they are cumulative, so do them daily and especially when stuck in negative emotions (Watch Dr. Jim Wilder models these exercises at www.youtube.com. Search for Jim Wilder, then \u201cShalom for my body.\u201d)<\/p><ol><li>Moro Reflex: Pull arms back. Breathe in. Say out loud, \u201cWhen I am afraid (you can substitute any of the 6 main negative emotions, such as anger, sadness, shame, disgust or hopeless-despair) , then come forward and rest your arms on your lap, and say, \u201cI trust in you O lord.\u201d Breathe in when you go back with your arms, breathe out when you rest your arms back on your lap. Do this four times.<\/li><li>First aid yawn= left, right left right: Yawn as you go to your right side with your arm extended as at a traffic stop. Say the same saying as you go to the right, \u201cWhen I am afraid\u201d, and then bring your arm back to your side in a natural position and say, \u201cI trust in you O Lord\u201d. Do this for the left side, then right again, then left\/right for a total of four times, yawn each time.<\/li><li>Attachment Center Exercise= Breathe in and tap the CB point, then breathe out and do CB rub in small concentric circles. Say the first half as you are breathing in and tap, \u201cWhen I am (afraid)\u201d, and the second half as you breathe out and do the circles, \u201cI trust in you Oh Lord\u201d. (present tense is better: Do this four times.<\/li><\/ol><p><strong>3) How to Offer Attunement: <\/strong><\/p><p>The following points help you as a listener to become fully immersed in what someone else is saying, but there may be other ways that you are used to, so feel free to use those.<\/p><ul><li>Listen well and be present (no distracting thoughts)<\/li><li>Maintain Eye contact, open posture (no crossed arms, legs)<\/li><li>Mirror their facial expression and voice tone (no negative facial expressions)<\/li><li>Reflect key words and phrases using their own words, back to them<\/li><li>Notice how connected the person is with their story. Are they experiencing it?<\/li><li>Share only positive feedback, especially what you notice about the person\u2019s RC\u2019s and nonverbal communication as they tell their story. (For example, \u201cit seems you are really enjoying being with the Lord- your entire face lights up\u201d, or, \u201cyour body was tense until you started talking about your grandmother, then you relaxed,\u201d or, \u201cYou looked sad when you were talking about that.\u201d)<\/li><\/ul><p>Now Re-Rate your RC\u2019s according the previous measure: _________________________<\/p><p>Have they improved? __________Yes _____________No.<\/p><p>Now, whenever your RC\u2019s are \u201coff\u201d there is something you can do about it! Everything will go better in any interaction with God or others, when your RC\u2019s are on. The same brain circuitry works for God and people.<\/p><p>Taken from Jim Wilder, Ed Khouri, Chris and Jen Coursey, Life Model Works team and Karl Lehman.<\/p><p>See <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a style=\"color: #0000ff; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/lifemodelworks.org\/\">www.joystartshere.com<\/a><\/span><\/span>, www.kclehman.com, www.immanuelapproach.com, and alivewell.org.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Relational Connectors (RC\u2019s) RELATIONAL CONNECTORS (RC\u2019s) EXERCISE #1: HANDOUT WHAT are RC\u2019s-WHY ARE THEY IMPORTANT? 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